For this post, explain something that you understand about yourself that
other people may not understand or even know is true about you.
Another way of asking this is: what is true about your private self that
people don't see publicly? Why do you think this part of yourself
doesn't translate well?
Due Wednesday.
Almost everyone has something about them that people may not understand or might not even know that was true about them. For me, there is more then one thing people may not understand about me. People will never understand my sense of humor. Things that are funny to me may not seem funny at all to others. Some people find this odd about me and others find it interesting about me. Everyone is different in their own special. Another thing about me is my love for sports. People are ware i play sports but they don't realize how much they mean to me because i don't really express those feelings. All in all, everyone has something no one will fully understand.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has something in their private selves that people may not realize or know about. For me it’s my shyness. When I don’t know someone really well I won’t talk to them unless they start a conversation with me. Also when I talk to them I am not always myself. Some people take this as i’m a quiet person and some people think i’m weird because of it. It can take me awhile to get to know someone and some people don’t realize that. When I know some I am not that shy and I talk alot. For people I don’t know alot don’t get to see this side of me. Another thing in my personal life that people don’t realize is how hard I work for sports. Some people see my games and say “that’s not hard” but don’t realize how much hard work was put into it. Some people join sports and expect to be instantly good but realize most sports involve alot of hard work and practice. Many people don’t realize this about me and other people too.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has a side or private self that they don't show to others. For me it's my temper. I may seem all happy and calm but if you say something to me, even if you think it's stupid and won't bother me I will get really mad. It's like I'm the Hulk. I don't want to get mad, but there's certain things that people do or say that doesn't click right with me. Some people may think, "Oh yea Tyler is super nice and not mean!". Although that's mostly true, certain things spark a sort of rage in me and I just release anger verbally that may or may not hurt other people's feelings. Some people might say it's an anger management problem but it's really just a lot of hate, sadness, and mostly disappointment building up to form my very slim temper.
ReplyDeleteNo one can go into you your mind and fully understand everything about you. There are many different sides of you. The person you are with your friends, the person you are with your family, the person you are with people you don’t know, and the person you are in private. People will perceive you in all different ways. They will make different judgments, opinions, and assumptions of you. I’m fully aware of this but I can’t stop or change the person I am. In public, in front of people and my friends, I am a loud and obnoxious. I am a person who seems brave and outgoing. I’m extremely friendly and love to talk. Though, when I’m by myself or with people I don’t know, I’m quiet and reserved. I hate meeting new people and talking to people who are older than me that have authority. They make me nervous and I’m no longer outgoing or brave. I’m not sure why this happens, but I’m not very good at first impressions. Another characteristic that most people don’t understand about me is my sense of humor. I say mean, sarcastic things that a lot of people take to heart. Though, they shouldn’t. Mostly everything that comes out of my mouth is a joke and I don’t actually mean it. Most people are bilingual in a different language, I’m bilingual in sarcasm. I understand why people don’t understand this about me. I say things with a straight face and I’m not one to lie, I’m very honest. Though, I make jokes most people find mean but I find funny. I don’t mean to come off rude or offend you; I just have a crude sense humor. In conclusion, no one is ever going to fully understand the way you think or all sides of your personality.
ReplyDeleteThe way the public world sees you and the way you see yourself are often unrelated and can even be opposites. Ever since I was a child I have always been small. I’m short and thin and I have a baby face. I don’t look my age and I’ve accepted that. However looking younger than you are can have its drawbacks. When I walk into a room a stranger would guess I was a little, naïve 13 year old not a 16 year old sophomore. When I’m working behind the counter at my job people assume I’m “the boss’ daughter”. Anyway I don’t blame the people who think I’m young. It makes sense. I look the part. But when people start assuming I’m this helpless little girl who’s just too innocent to understand anything, then it’s a problem. I’m not innocent. I’m not shy and I’m not weak. I’m just as mature as you are and understand plenty. You may think I am this sheltered, privileged kid but I know about the world. I may be small but I am tougher than I look. Sometimes you have to work hard to show your true colors. And even after that you can still be misunderstood. The social world will often judge a book by its cover. I’m here to tell you this is not how is should work.
ReplyDeletePeople have different traits, beliefs, and perspectives in life that can be difficult for others to understand. When these people try to express these, they can have difficulties putting their thoughts into words that can be interpreted the way they wants others to. For me, it is my ideas in music. As a musician, I see music differently than the average person. The way I break down the melodies and lyrics of songs can be an entirely different way than how others may do so. When it comes to composing, others may have an even less understanding. Everyone has their unique style when it comes to any form of art. So when I write music, others may say some of the ideas are ones they would have never thought of. Too some, the music I create is quality work. But not everyone see’s something the same way. Others may not understand what I am expressing, and can be confused or displeased with the work. It’s not criticism, but just that they don’t have the same perspective as me. This also applies to listening to music. Metallica is my favorite band. While they are a popular band, they do not appeal to all. Some may consider the music I listen to noise, while otters view it as a masterpiece. What makes music so special is that everyone can find something that they enjoy in it. When it comes to both listening and playing, I have my own special approach in this art.
ReplyDeleteMy private self is a whole different person than my public self. My private self is a free spirit who would like to be friends with everybody, but my public self has built up a wall. My private self is an intellect who loves to read and be artistic and do music. My public self, or as I call it my school self, is shy and appears to be boring. I would compare my public self to a grand piano that is full of opportunities, but is a little out of tune so nobody wants to play it. Among adults or people older than me, my private self comes out much more than when I am with people my own age. Holden is much like this too. One example of this is the fact that he bonds more with certain teachers than he does with the students that he is expected to be friends with. My private self is a very different human being, who has many different outlooks on life and is not afraid to share her ideas. My public self is also this, but is afraid to vocalize these outlooks. I spend most of my time doing music because it is literally my world and people do not understand this passion that I have for it, so they consider me weird for doing music instead of socializing. I look at it as; people come and go, but music will always be with me. So, I encourage people to get to know a person before they judge them or call them weird because they may just be someone who struggles with letting their private, true self fit together perfectly with their public self.
ReplyDeleteGetting older is just the way of life. We grow older everyday and we learn more and more about the world and how we think. But the social world and society assumes that as you get older you get weaker and have a dull mind. This of coarse is a lie, as we grow we remember everything from the days we were young and everything that happens each day. People think when you get older you get weaker and lazy, this only occurs based on what you do with your life. You can only get weaker if you let it happen, you need to keep your own body in good condition and stay healthy. Even as you get older you can still have a very strong body and you'll be able to do everything or mostly everything you could have done when you were younger. People assume many things about the world and how people live in society but getting old is just a saying , its all about how you manage your time on earth.
ReplyDeleteIn my public life, I act very different from my private self. My public self, is how I act around people I do not really know or people who are sort of my friends. I seem quiet and maybe slightly intelligent. I seem enclosed to myself and not a talkative person. This is because I am shy and very cautious with letting people see my "private self" because I care about for whom they judge me as. My friends on the other hand get to see what I am actually like, because I don't feel as judged by their opinion, and I trust them enough to let them see my "true" self. My private self, contradicts my public self. I am not quiet at all, I love to talk to people a lot, maybe a bit too much, and literally exploding with energy every single second. I bounce around the walls like I have drank 5 cups of coffee after taking 2 caffiene pills. I become an extremely crazy person, and very spontaneous, not thinking about the consequences of my actions, and I am not always the brightest person either. I do and say things that many people would be surprised and shocked by, except, of course my friends because they are used to it. When it comes to my public self I am a secluded quiet person, but as soon as I am at home or with my friends, I will, as some people say, lose my sanity and become mentally unstable.
ReplyDeletewith everybody there's a private side to you and your public side, you might not want to admit it but it's there. For me I am very sensitive but I don't like people to see me cry or be upset. It has to deal with the fact that I don't want to be judged by others and to be criticized. I know that I should try to let that part out but the way people are now a days you get criticized for every little thing and that's why people have their private self because you're afraid of the inevitable. Even though that's hidden from the rest of the world besides my family and very few friends I try to stay happy and enjoy my life and try to avoid sad or upsetting situations so that I don't have the sensitive side come out of me.
ReplyDeleteMy public and private selves often contradict each other. In our culture, especially at our age, we are expected to find certain things funny, important or entertaining. Often, my public self will laugh along with my close friends at bad jokes or pretend to be amused by stories that I am supposed to find cool or funny. Often I find myself groaning on the inside. I do like to partake and feel involvement in my society and culture, but truly, I know that it isn’t me. Most people think that all teenagers have the same crude sense of humor or interests. It is almost as if I have been programmed to smile and like things that I don’t, and I don’t always realize it at the moment it happens, but if I look back I will notice myself behaving like I wouldn’t normally. It seems whenever I go out with my friends, it is always fun but I always find myself thinking, why am I laughing? Or, why am I playing along? I know that inside I am a quiet, curious individual that loves art, books and has so many ideas to try to change the world. I often find myself forgetting my most favorite qualities when I am with other people. Its almost like I forget how to think or how to be smart and I’m not sure why. This a big internal conflict because I struggle with being myself around others, but I also sometimes enjoy being the carefree, fun individual that my close friends are used to talking to and being around.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has a different private and public self. They often contradict each other and also could be completely different from one another. No one can ever tell the difference from them because people only can see your public self. A lot of the times my public self will express how I feel in a totally different way of how i actually feel about something. To many people they see me maybe laughing along to a joke, or maybe I will just act the way people think I should be acting. But my private self feels the complete opposite. I might be actually angry or upset. When I look back on something like this I find myself behaving in a way I wouldn't normally behave. This becomes a very big conflict for people including myself. The internal struggle with myself makes it hard to express what you are really thinking or feeling about. It is just easier to agree and to go with the flow than trying to figure out what you really are trying to say or do.
ReplyDeleteThere are several causes for people to have a public and private self. The major cause, not only for people but also for myself, is how judgmental people are. Although it does not bother me too much what people think of me, it is a natural instinct for people to want others to think of them positively. Although some judgement may be small, it can still be hurtful, and impact peoples' moods and choices. My private and public selves differ, but actually have some similarities as well. The differences between my public and private selves are that in private, I am a very talkative, loud, sarcastic, sensitive person, that enjoys the little things in life, and wants to succeed and be the best at everything. When I am with my friends I sort of let my inner self come out, because I am comfortable when I am with them. In public, I tend to fall back a little bit, and I tend to do more listening than talking. I try not to show as much negative emotion, and if something I am doing is not that important, then maybe I won’t try as hard at it so I am not judged for being a try hard. Some similarities between my public and private selves are that I am always happy and positive about everything no matter where I am, and I always express generosity, kindness, and other positive qualities. I think my full private self does not always transfer in public because sometimes in larger settings I prefer to listen more to what people have to say and then process it myself, and I do not want to have negative judgements made against me. I do not like the feeling of being like everybody else, but sometimes I find my public self being like that to reduce stress and to get by.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has a public and private self. Those around you only see you as your public self, whereas you may view yourself as a mix of the two, or possibly just as your private self. Often times, one’s public self can drastically differ from their private self. A factor that I believe contributes to this is the natural instinct to want to feel accepted. This very drive to feel accepted causes one—as a result of their past public experiences—to form a public self that agrees with the societal pressures that “allow” one to be accepted. For example, this could mean that you may make fun of someone or go along with a group that is talking badly about someone, just to feel accepted by that group. Your private self wouldn’t consider acting this way, but in public, your public self prevails and causes you to do things that allow you to be accepted by your peers. Personally, I believe that my public and private doesn’t display as drastic of a difference. In my opinion, the biggest difference for me is my sociability and talkativeness. In public, I am a very quiet person and I am pretty shy. But at home, my private self is very talkative, and I am not afraid to share my opinions on a variety of subjects. Although in school it may seem like I am not actively participating in class by forming opinions and contributing to class discussion, I am forming opinions and just not voicing them publicly. I am this way because that is how my public self formed starting from when I was very young. This displays how people view my public self (quiet and shy) and how that compares with my private self (openly communicative).
ReplyDeleteI believe that there are multiple sides to each person that are determined by who they are interacting with or the situation they are put in. I definitely see this in myself – there are many different sides to me, though I have noticed that all sides of me have come together more over the years. Something that I understand about myself is that I’m a whole person that isn’t defined by my sexuality. When people find out I like girls, they’re either shocked, amused, or they start asking how many flannel shirts I own. As I’ve gradually come out to people, I’ve been accepted wholeheartedly, and I couldn’t ask for more, but these same people have also made lesbian jokes at my expense. Guys have flirted with me long after I tell them I’m both gay and completely uninterested. I’m comfortable with who I am, but I don’t want to be defined by the fact that I like girls, because a lot of my life doesn’t have to do with that part of me. I don’t want people to see me as the token lesbian, but I don’t want to hide who I am, either. It’s just a part of me that’s as natural as my tastes in music or food. I don’t think this translates well because I have a hard time conveying my thoughts verbally, and I question myself so much that sometimes I don’t think it’s even worth it. (I was even questioning whether or not to write about this topic, but that just contradicts the whole “not wanting to hide my real self” thing, so I should probably stick with it.)
ReplyDeleteAlthough some may not want to admit it, everyone has two versions of themselves. People have both a public a private self with different mind states about certain things. The difference between these two states will differ from person to person depending on how they act. Personally, my private self is not too far from my public self. My private self is friendly, loves to have fun, is respectful to all, and has drive. I like to strike conversation about anything. I like talking because it reveals a lot about who you’re talking to from their mannerisms, language, and views on the subject. I like to keep a neutral opinion to everything until I know what I’m dealing with. I also love to have fun because, I mean, who doesn’t. Being respectful is also very important to me because I expect the same in return and you have no idea what someone could be going through. I don’t like any negative opinions formulated of me and I find being respectful to any and all is a good way to make people think highly of me. Finally, I have drive to work and compete and try to be the best I can at what I do. This applies to me at school, my workplace, and in sports. My public self is very close to what I just mentioned. It possesses most of the same qualities, yet morphed because of what is “cool”. My public self has more of a filter than my private self; I am more hesitant to speak my mind. Also my drive is not perceived usually as I consider it to be. In today’s day and age it’s all about being cool and being a “try hard” is not cool. On all levels I try to avoid this narrow-minded opinion and excel at everything that I do. Besides these two small obstacles, my public and private self are virtually the same. All in all, everyone has a public and private self that may be very different or very similar.
ReplyDeleteEveryone naturally reacts different when they are in different places and with different people. People can have many different sides or people can only have a few, but everyone has at least two different sides to them. The only person that can ever know about all these sides to you though is you because you are the only one who experiences all these sides. People may not even realize that they have different sides because they come naturally, but if you think about it you do have different actions when your in different places. Many times these sides that you have can be complete opposites too from being quiet at some times and loud in others and many other things too. All people have different sides, but we can't control them because they are natural and you are the only one who knows about the different sides.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has two sides. One is the side that is expressed the most that everybody knows. The other is a private side the only the closest people to you know. For me, my private side is my habit to think long and deeply about things. When someone sees me they may assume that I am empty minded, that I only focus on what's in front of me, or may not even think about how my mind works at all. When I start thinking about something that really interests me I will be thinking about it for the rest of the day. I will find myself thinking about all the aspects that make it up and focusing on even the most minor details about it for the longest time. To sum it up, I think a lot and nobody knows it.
ReplyDeleteAlmost everyone has at least two different personalities that they display in different situations. A personality in public can differ from a personality in private tremendously, but in some situations they are very similar. Some people change their personality when they are in different social situations because they are worried about judgement that others will give. Other people change their personality to be respectful to the audience they are around. An example of this is the difference in personality when a friend is hanging out with you, and when the same friend is talking to your parents, your friend suddenly takes on a new persona, which become incredibly polite. Then there are people who will act one way in front of you, but once they are in front of people who are not so familiar with them, they become a dulled down version of their private self. I think that this is very true for me. When I am with my friends, I show my private self. I say exactly what is on my mind, and don’t worry about what my friends think because they are my friends, so they already know that that’s what I’m like. I share my opinions, and am not afraid to say when I disagree with something that one of my friends says. When I am in a public situation, I have a much finer filter to what I say. I will act in the same way, but in a lighter concentration. For example, if someone says something that I don’t agree with, I won’t directly say that I disagree, but I will say that there might be other right answers that coincide with what they are saying. This type of attitude is less confronting and less blunt, which leads people to think that I don’t have strong opinions, but in reality I am just keeping most of those opinions to myself.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has two sides to themselves: a side they let everyone see, and a private self that they only show around friends and family. When people first meet me, they assume I am quiet and shy just because I might not be very talkative with them. But when I’m with my friends, they describe me as “loud and opinionated.” Once I’ve warmed up to you and I actually want to talk, I won’t stop talking. I’m not afraid to challenge what you’re saying if I don’t agree. But if you’re someone I just don’t want to be having a conversation with, I might not appear to be very talkative. People who don’t know me interpret this as shy or quiet, rather than me being reluctant to talk to someone. If you knew me, you’d know that I’m not quiet or shy. Just because I’m not telling someone my entire life story and what I want to do in 10 years doesn't mean I’m shy or quiet. I have no problem going up to new people and introducing myself or asking a question. It’s not me, it’s you.
ReplyDeleteEveryone sees different perspectives of your personality depending on what that might be. In private and in public places I am a different person. Overall, many people think i'm a shy quiet person and for the most part I am when it comes to school. But many people don't see the other side of me which is more outgoing. During class I’m much more quiet, its much different when I’m around my friends. Around my friends I talk all the time which many people think is not true. Many people just assume things thats aren't true just because of what they physically see but do not actually know. Another thing that is assumed about myself but completely different is when people do not know anything about me and Heidi. People that are not familiar with Heidi and I think that we are similar because we are twins. People think this because we look alike but we have completely different personalities. Heidi is much more outgoing than I am. I think most of the reason we are different is the different people we have friends with. On the contrary people also think me and Heidi hate each other because we are so different but in reality at home we are actually pretty close. When you get to know me in private I am much more outgoing and me and Heidi are actually closer than people believe. My private and public self often differ from each other due to how people perceive me.
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